A question....

If you are worth the fuck, are you always worth the date?

In life, we often see these super hot people, and they blow your mind, cause all you can think of is that they are the best lay. Well, as you have also probably found, hot people are not really the relationship type all the time. Actually, in most cases, they are too hot to resist the constant temptations. So, generally I do avoid going out with hot guys. They are too much of high maintanence.

But here is a different scenario to the situation. So you meet someone, and you can't get it out of your mind how great sex would be with that person. So you really wanna be with that person sexually. But, at the same time, you know that your friends would never really approve on that person. So practically, you decide that all you can have with that person is a sexual relationship. A hidden relationship. No going out, cause your friends may see you. No showing affection in public, cause your friends may see you. No special occasions, cause your friends may see you. In other words, you cannot be a couple, but you can fuck your brains out as much as you can.

I guess, if you are that kinda person, such a scenario would be perfect. No obligations, no complications, no time wasted. You get the best from both words. And you don;t lose anything. And since you are someone who does not really care, then you don;t get guilt trips every single night you go over. So, I guess you are perfectly set up for such a relationship.

But..... We are talking about a two-sided story here. So your partner, who is obviously not up to the standards of your friends, has to give up on any thoughts about dating you, and going to places with you, and hanging out with your friends and so on. And your partner is also pretty shaky on showing you to his/her friends, who may really disapprove of you. But unlike you, your partner doesnn't really care, and would show you off anyways. The problem is that no matter how confident your partner is, noone I have ever known has been able to put up with such a situation. I mean, just having sex when wanting to have a real relationship.

I am not sure if my opinion on the matter is conservative, or selfish, or bitchy, or call it whatever you want, but I just think that sex is not enough for any relationship. And what seems to be missing in this scenario i mutual respect and being on the same page. I am not sure how these two people are going to resolve their issues. I am actually not sure what would I decide if I was in a situation like that. Do you choose the fun, pointless sex and ignoring the disrespect, or you chose to break it up, losing the person, but keeping self-respect. What is more important? Oh, I know an observer would definitely say Self-Respect is always you have left, but sometimes, we need to compromise...

I hope someone has thoughts on the matter....