Empowerment

What is the role of the mother when you are 21? It is to listen when you need to talk to someone, to be there for you without pushing you, but to know when to push when she feels you will benefit from sharing. And most importantly, to show you she respects you as a person and as independent individual who has a strong instinct and the intelligence to make the right decision about situations. And she is there to tell you that you need to believe in yourself, because you have enough to pride yourself with and should not put yourself down just because people have low opinion on you or put you down for their own pleasure.
This is exactly what my mom did today. She kept calling the whole evening and day to talk to me, and recalled me, leaving messages asking where I am and what I do. And when I tried to avoid the conversation, she kept pushing me delicately, saying that she knows I want to talk, and she is there to listen. My mom has a very subtle way to push you towards things. She is nice and jokes around, like she dpes not take it seriously, but she directs you towards it and manipulates you so at the end you feel trapped and cannot avoid the questions. I think I have inherited my psychological counselling manipulative abilities from her ;)
So I ended up telling her about the two things that have been bothering me, and which I have been upset about. So she listened, and then gave her opinion. It was interesting, because first she suggested something, and when I told her what I thought I should do, she said that I have a much better idea of what should be done. For the second thing she also said that my decision is much better. I appreciated the acceptance. And i also appreciated her telling me that it is not my fault, and that I am not the bad person in the situation, and that these people have tried to take advantage of me and I have not allowed them to do this. She kept saying that I need to believe in myself, and the way she said it was so empowering because I could feel she actually believed it. She also said that it is her own opinion not just because she is my mother, but because of her seeing me as an independent person and also from what other people have told her about me, that I am a very intelligent person and I have the inner instinct and the strength to fight for myself and overcome the difficulties. She also said that people will try to put me down because they want me to be down, to shut me up, and to make me suffer because they do not have what I have, and that I should not care about them, because they are ignorant senseless dumb people who do not deserve any pity and who are too low for me to try to deal with them after I have tried so many times. I really needed to hear this from her. It was a very strong statement coming from her, and definitely gave me the power to look more critically on the issues and believe in myself.
Empowerment coming from the people who care about me is all I need from them. If I have the confidence in myself, I can overcome everything. And no matter how much people want to see me down and suffering and enjoy putting me down especially when I am so vulnerable and sensitive, I can still stang up strong and prove I am worth priding myself in me. And if people do not see beyonf the dust others throw over me, then they are not worth it either.

Yes, I do feel confident right now, and I go ni ni :D